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The Bachelor or Waiting to be Romeo

Jake Pavelka, the 2010 Bachelor. Photo Credit: Agirlygirl.wordpress

Females of America are ready to go over to a girlfriend’s apartment tonight to enact a little sisterhood ritual that takes place over one season each year. They’ll be sitting around the couch, eyes getting watery, and tissues at hand as they fall helplessly in love with pilot Jake Pavelka and get jealous over the 25 women who get to spend time with him.  Don’t worry, I won’t be talking about “The Bachelor,” premiering tonight on ABC at  8/7 Central nor will I be discussing the recent “scandal,” if you can even call it that.

No, I’m talking about being a bachelor, or rather, my identity as one. Despite not having my own TV show or 25 beautiful women vying for my attention, I too, am a bachelor. And I’m not the only one. Back in October, I wrote about my anxiety of being single, and how it seemed that my circle of single friends is getting smaller and smaller. Nothing has changed. I still feel like I’m living in a real-life “What About Brian,” and I’m Brian, the character who is the only one of his friends to be single. Odd man out.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I like the bachelor life. There are some things I don’t have to worry or stress about that committed guys have to. I could ask my married fraternity brothers Kyle, Michael, Jason, Nick, and Brandon M. or the recent engaged guys, Brandon K. and Dustin about the challenges they’re facing in their relationships right now. But I’d like to imagine, that as a post-grad, one of the biggest obstacles for every marriage often relates to money. In this economy, where getting a job is like getting into Harvard, money can cause stress on young couples. Couples are asking themselves whether they have jobs that can provide for their new family, whether it can pay for the rent, the phone, electricity, gas, car, and insurance bills, or even basic necessities like food. No, I don’t have to worry about all that. As a bachelor, all I worry about is for myself.

*Sighs, and nervously laughs* And boy, do I worry. Where is my Juliet? I want to “take her somewhere we can be alone” and share in this “Love Story.” And as my friend, Georgia (who is like my older sister), gets married this Saturday, I can’t help but understand Taylor Swift’s own anxiety of waiting. Is this what it’s going to like for the next couple years, every time I attend a wedding? I hope not. Guys aren’t supposed to worry about stuff like that. All I have to look forward to is the fact that the people of my generation tend to marry a lot later in life, as we continue to further our education.

But luckily, I have a great model for marriage. Ironically, as “The Bachelor” premieres today, my own parents celebrate their 27th wedding anniversary. Sure, there are other marriages that have lasted longer, but my parents are there for my own two eyes to see. They have survived a lot, from relocating their family to another country, to at times struggling to meet ends meet, to experiencing the deaths of two children (my siblings).

I can’t help but try to understand why theirs is a marriage that works. And I realize that despite the fact that my parents are opposites (my dad’s shy, and my mom’s out-going), they’ve displayed an incredible sense of patience and understanding. They’ve learned to compromise, and when they fight or argue, they don’t do it in front of their children. They usually go to separate parts of the house until they’ve calmed down. And most importantly, their marriage is selfless and a constant reminder that love is an act of humility, a willingness to serve and be served. The funny part of all this is that my parents are children of divorced parents, and according to various psychological studies, children of divorced parents are more likely to end their own marriages. Known as the vicious divorce cycle, my parents (and other children of divorced parents), have vowed to show that a marriage can be healthy and successful. So here’s to you, mom and dad. Thank you for being a great example in my life, of what a marriage could be and should be.

So as I ponder over my bachelor identity, I leave you being entertained by this guy version of Taylor Swift’s “Love Story,” to remind you that I’m not the only guy waiting to be some girl’s Romeo. Are you my Juliet?


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All The Right Friends in All The Right Places

A friend loveth at all times,
and a brother is born for adversity.
Proverbs 17:17

It’s that time of year again, an in-between. It’s the time we say goodbye  to the past–to all that was lost, and embrace the new year again–to start over. Bittersweet. As much as we want to hold on to those glory days, we have to let them go if we want new and greater things to come. And I believe they will come.

2009 was a year of surprises. Sure, it was dominated by vampires and mutants and cars that could transform into robots or even machines set on exterminating the human race (again). But it’s also the year America’s first black president took office and surprisingly (for some) won the Nobel Peace Prize. We may have said goodbye to our loved ones for the last time, or even those we’ve admired, such as Farrah Fawcett, Michael Jackson, Ted Kennedy, and Brittany Murphy.

There were definitely great surprises, like Susan Boyle on “Britain’s Got Talent,” who reminded us that appearances don’t matter, as she drew in 120 million views on Youtube and sold more than 1.8 million copies of her debut album. And of course, there were awful surprises, like when Kanye West stole Taylor Swift’s light when she was getting her award or how we learned that Tiger Wood’s pure image became tainted with scandal.

Yes, surprises. 2009 was filled with them. But we say goodbye to all that.

And at this time of year, I have a tradition of acknowledging the people in my life who have affected me in some way. Think of it like an extended Thanksgiving, but I think it’s important that we lift others up because to many times we bring people down.

So here’s to you:

The greatest parents

Troy Aikman graduates with the class of 2009 in Sociology

Mom and Dad. You’ve supported me so much through school–from kindergarten to even my years at UCLA. When I was down over something, you always manage to get my head focus, to realize that it doesn’t matter about my circumstances–what matters was my drive to achieve my dreams. It’s because of you that I get to fulfill my childhood dreams, walking on that stage, receiving my bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Sociology from UCLA. And hey, I did it with style, doing it with Troy Aikman.

Alpha Gamma Omega and Jon Foreman of Switchfoot

Alpha Gamma Omega. What a crazy year I’ve had from being an active to being a chapter advisor. I love seeing you guys grow as faithful men of God. And your testimonies and example of service has especially strengthened my own faith, that the God I serve is the God who comforts and the God who loves despite my shortcomings. From those classy date events, to other social events, to engagements, to those late night BBQs,to flag football at Pismo, to seeing Jon Foreman perform on our stage–all of you guys have made my year. Iron sharpens iron. And I can’t wait to see what’s in store for you in the future. And thanks James, for allowing me to see America through your eyes, all the novelty that had warned off since moving here. Looking at it with fresh eyes, I realize more how grateful I am. Oh, and I also love you guys to at USC, SDSU, Berkeley, UCSB, Cal Poly Slo, Cal State Fresno, and UC Davis.

Venice trip with Bailey, Jose, and Jillian (Steven took the picture)

Alpha Delta Chi. Those beautiful, gorgeous, women of God with high standards of what they want in a man. You go ladies! To my lil sis, Bailey, my big sis, Rae’ven, to Jessica, Jillian, Alisa, Kimmi, Jackie, Leah, Ana, Lauren, Amy, Kati and the others who I can’t all name (because there’s a lot of you)…a guy is lucky to be surrounded by such classy women. Thank you! You guys have supported me through the year and taught me many things about women. For example, the only way I’m going to get a girl, is if I become a stone cold vampire and glitter in the sun. Oh, and sometimes, a guy’s just got to sing a little of Taylor Swift or Celine Dion on a porch bench at USC. I love you all.

Ohnine of IVBCF

At fountains just outside Royce Hall

Ohnine and Intervarsity Bruin Christian Fellowship. Thank you guys for being so patient with me. You guys are my backbone. Every time I dwell into the world with you guys, I get so enlightened–perhaps because we study the Bible like no other. Seriously, my mind hurts sometimes by all those thought-provoking questions we ask. And you guys don’t know how welcomed and accepted I feel every time you guys include me in various events.


The Class of 2009. That’s you Emanuel, Brandon, David, Jose, Ted, Josh, Arvin, Kim, Shannon, Alex, Kirsten, and all those others I can’t name. We did it. And for those of you in Sociology…haha, we survived the mayhem. You’re going to do wonders where ever you are!

UGADA. You taught me to care about the world around me, and reminded me that we can’t stay young forever. This issue of Alzheimer’s disease is of great importance because it just doesn’t affect one person–it affects the entire family. Others live on through our memories and when we lose that, we lose them. We need to continue to educate people so that one day we will find a cure and by the time we reach a certain age, Alzheimer’s disease will be no more! UGADA find a cure!

Freedom and Fashion. I’ve neglected the issue of human and sex trafficking like it was some kind of bad dream. I was reminded by the capacity we have for evil, and that slavery hasn’t disappeared–it just has taken on a different form. But God’s heart is for all those that are broken, and for the rest of us who can, we must do God’s work and fight for those without a voice. Thank you for allowing me to join the fight with putting on a grand fashion show educating people of fair trade products, as well as the fact that these hidden things are going on all around us. I’d like to think of us as superheroes without masks…and definitely more fashionable and fashion conscious.

And to all the others who I didn’t name, I apologize. But I thank you.

And most importantly, to Christ, the Savior of my soul, who provided me with all the right friends in all the right places. You truly know where to place them and exactly at what time in my life.

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A Not-So Taylor Swift Fire; I Can’t “Breathe”

It’s hot. Dreadfully hot. A little hotter than usual in sunny Southern California. You could fry an egg on a sidewalk if you want. I don’t suggest it, but you could. At least I don’t live in Phoenix, Arizona where it’s hot pretty much every day and where the air conditioning business and pool services are thriving. No, I’ll settle for Los Angeles. However, LA isn’t really the place to be right now. If you didn’t know it yet, Los Angeles is burning!

Sure, it’s scorching hot, and in some places it’s just plain dry. But when I say burning, I’m talking about all those wild fires that have been destroying wild life, people’s homes, and my lungs. I live many miles away (several cities away) from the closest fire, yet when I step right outside, I smell ash. Portions of the sky is black, as if LA had some massive volcano explode Pompeii style. The air quality sucks. My lungs are probably black right now. (Sigh) I rather stay inside, enjoy the air conditioning, and watch TV because I can’t breathe!

Photo Credit: Flickr

Photo Credit: Flickr

But I can’t help it. I’m kind of an outdoors-man when I want to be. I want to go outside and pull a Julie Andrews, running on a hill with my arms wide open and singing, “The Hills Are Alive With the Sound of Music.” But alas, all I will be singing is that the hills are alive with fire. So God, if you want to step in right now, you could let it rain. I’m sure it’ll help all those fire fighters return back to their families early. Two firefighters apparently died today.

Darn, I wish I was in the East Coast right about now, hanging out with some of my friends in New York and New Hampshire. But as I stayed inside my home, listening to my iPod, I came across one of Taylor Swift’s songs. She’s so young and beautiful, and quite a talented musician/singer/songwriter. But I think one of her songs is quite fitting for such a time as this. Because us Angelenos need to “Breathe.”

Now, I may look like I’m a fighter, but really, I’m a lover. And I’m quite comfortable with my masculinity to say that I actually belt out for “Romeo [to] take me somewhere we can be alone” and that “he’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar.” I don’t know. Call me a romantic at heart. Call me sensitive. Whatever. But Taylor Swift is worth it. And she’s been on the news a lot this summer. I just don’t see her taking the Britney Spears/Lindsay Lohan route. She’s a classy girl, and she’s got enough of style and talent to host the Grammy’s. She’s even got a sense of humor, rapping with T-Pain as the notorious T-Swizzle with “Thug Story.”

Photo Credit: Ask Men UK

Photo Credit: Ask Men UK

Oh Taylor! Now, if you ladies were looking for a different Taylor, wellyou can go here and leave me alone.

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Photo Credit: Askmen UK

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