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She’s the Beauty, and I’m…Okay, I’m the Beast

My girlfriend, Nicole, is gorgeous! Okay, maybe all boyfriends say that of their girlfriends. But what first attracted me to Nicole was her voice. When I hear her sing, a voice of an angel leaves those red lips and my heart skips a beat. At times, I have to pinch myself–maybe I’ve died and gone to heaven? Maybe I’m dreaming. Maybe. But when I look into her brown eyes, I can’t help but feel at peace. My worries and all the stresses of life seem to not matter, as if they’ve evaporated whenever I meet her gaze. Nicole has long brown hair with a tint of red and her hair drops down just below her shoulders. When the sun shines on it, it only enhances her bright smile. Yes, she’s the sunshine that brightens up my day. Nicole is gorgeous! She’s the Beauty, and standing next to her…I’m…okay, I’m the Beast. That’s fine by me.

I just have one problem. Okay, maybe several come to think of it.  First, she hasn’t met me yet. Perhaps, she doesn’t even know I exist. Which leads me to the cold hard truth: she’s not really my girlfriend–I just wish she was. A guy can dream, right? But before you go on thinking she’s some imaginary beauty–she’s not. Nicole is really Britt Nicole, the singer. And I’d like to imagine that I would meet someone like her. Maybe even marry her. Yah, maybe some day.

As more of my friends are getting married at a young age, I can’t help but think of my own prospects. Am I setting my standards to high? Should I settle? Maybe I’m just too darn picky. And as much as I’d like to think that I’m not shallow, I admit that a woman’s beauty reels me in. Yet beauty can be a deception. I’ve met many beautiful girls who turned out to be…how do I put this nicely? Um, some beautiful girls turn out to be the Wicked Witch of the West–deep down they’re horrible. Beauty gets me in, but it’s her personality, her love for others, and her willingness to put others before herself–that’s what would keep me there.

So as I was reading up on one of my favorite blogs, Bakadesuyo (a blog that contains snippets from various research journals that the author of the site found interesting), I came across an entertaining entry. In a way, it’s a “tip” for marriage, but really, it’s a study on the role of physical attractiveness on marriage:

Physical appearance plays a crucial role in shaping new relationships, but does it continue to affect established relationships, such as marriage? In the current study, the authors examined how observer ratings of each spouse’s facial attractiveness and the difference between those ratings were associated with (a) observations of social support behavior and (b) reports of marital satisfaction. In contrast to the robust and almost universally positive effects of levels of attractiveness on new relationships, the only association between levels of attractiveness and the outcomes of these marriages was that attractive husbands were less satisfied. Further, in contrast to the importance of matched attractiveness to new relationships, similarity in attractiveness was unrelated to spouses’ satisfaction and behavior. Instead, the relative difference between partners’ levels of attractiveness appeared to be most important in predicting marital behavior, such that both spouses behaved more positively in relationships in which wives were more attractive than their husbands, but they behaved more negatively in relationships in which husbands were more attractive than their wives. These results highlight the importance of dyadic examinations of the effects of spouses’ qualities on their marriages. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2009 APA, all rights reserved

It makes sense to me. If the guy is the beauty in the relationship, the girl would feel insecure with her beauty. But if the girl is the beauty, it’s a win-win situation for the guy and the girl.

Anyway, I may not have Brad Pitt’s smile or Taylor Lautner’s body or whatever it is and whoever it is that girls find attractive nowadays. According to the article, that may be a good thing. Now, the real challenge is finding a woman who would settle for this Beast.

However, I do think I look way better than Jack Black. Okay…back to working out.

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Dating in the Dark

The premise of ABC’s newest show, Dating in the Dark, is simply that.  There’s no surprises there, no one gets kicked off or eliminated, and no one wins cash prizes. It’s just three single men and three single women who spend a week in a house at opposite ends, dating in pitch dark.  Who came up with such an intelligent idea? I wish I thought of it and had gotten paid for it. It is interesting, especially when we are a voyeuristic society.

The cosmetic and fashion industries are all multi-billion dollar industries. We spend countless hours getting ready for a date, choosing what we wear, what impression we want to make, and so forth. This show removes all that pressure. All you can rely on for the most part are the conversations you make in the dark. However, the reality show doesn’t completely remove looks. After all, in the dark, you can still touch the other person, learn their height, and so forth. But still, it’s an interesting idea. And the mini games they do to get to know who they’re dating, such as smelling the other person’s shirt or describing to a skilled sketch artist what they think the other person looks like–it’s all pretty entertaining. Heck, dare I say it, it’s a refreshing idea.

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However, hearing the people on the show descibe their experiences on the date reveals that looks do matter. Many of them say things like, “Oh God, I hope she’s hot” or “I hope I didn’t kiss Shrek.” But it just goes to show us how much we rely on looks. We judge people all the time, judging how much money we think another person makes, or how lazy they are, and so forth. So when all the lights are off, and you can’t rely on your vision to tell you who the person is, what can you rely on? How do you adjust? Will the content of your conversations especially matter? I personally believe that physical attraction is important and what allows you to gravitate towards the person, but it’s personality that either sticks or repels the person.

At the end of every show, the people have the choice of staying with the person they dated, or leaving the house. It can either go beautifully when the other person also chooses you or be a nightmare when the other person rejects you when you choose them. I found myself cheering for the ones waiting to see if the other chose them. And when they got rejected, I felt entirely sorry for them. I think I’m going to like this show. I can’t wait to see what’s next, and how the next group will behave.

So, do looks matter to you? What does this reveal of our identites?

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