Sex and Bristol Palin

PalinJohnstonabstinenceI have to say, 19-year-old Bristol Palin, daughter of Sarah Palin (that famous Alaskan governor who ran for vice president on the Republican ticket) is gorgeous. There’s just something about her eyes and that sweet smile–it just makes me want to stop what I’m doing and get to know her some more. Maybe, I’m just a sucker for brunettes.

Bristol became pregnant during high school and is currently in a custody battle with her ex lover, Levi Johnston, over their 13-month-old son, Trip. Concurrently, she’s become an advocate for teaching teenagers about practicing abstinence rather than having safe sex to avoid getting pregnant. In In Touch Magazine, she say’s “I’m not going to have sex until I’m married…I can guarantee it.” And since then, a huge media firestorm grew when she and her mother appeared on “Oprah” yesterday.

Oprah Winfrey was on her case when she asked Bristol, “Why set yourself up that way? It may be 10 years from now before you choose to get married. Why set yourself up in making that statement so that everybody you go out with, you date — the media is going to be looking at that person, trying to get that person to sell you out, to say, ‘Did you have sex or not.’..It’s nobody’s business when you chose to have sex.”

Palin answered, “I think it’s a goal to have and I think other women should have that goal.”

“Okay, but it’s a goal,” Winfrey said, “But when you make a statement that you are absolutely positively not going to have sex, you don’t think you’re setting yourself up?”

Palin answered, “No, I don’t.”

“Okay, good luck to you,” Winfrey said.

Did you see that sly move that Winfrey was doing? She gave Palin the opportunity to retract her statement and edit it. However, Palin would not budge. Oprah seems to have little faith in Palin. Maybe it’s for good reason. ABC News reported:

  • 3 out of 10 high school girls get pregnant.
  • Of those that get pregnant, only half actually finish high school.
  • 8 out of 10 of the pregnant girls do not get married to the father of their children.

In the very same interview with ABC News, Bristol Palin states, “[Abstinence] is a hard choice. It’s the safe choice. And it’s the best choice.” I have to agree–it’s actually quite logical. How can you be 100% sure that you’ll avoid getting pregnant or be at risk for sexually-transmitted diseases? You abstain from sex, duh!  And you stop promiscuous behavior. It’s plain and simple. But for some teenagers, it’s not that simple–it’s a struggle.

Research has shown that abstinence-only programs have not produced favorable results. And those that take virginity pacts are just as likely to have sex than those who don’t. This is what Oprah Winfrey feared–we would set ourselves up for failure. However, perhaps the real failure of abstinence-only programs is that they don’t educate teenagers about safe sex or contraception. As a result, those teenagers who are in abstinence-only programs and absolutely struggle with sex are more likely to not practice safe sex or contraception. We need a comprehensive program that first teaches abstinence as the 100% sure way of avoiding pregnancy and STDs, but also teach about safe sex and contraception. I think the latter half is what Palin’s campaign against teen pregnancy is missing.

On a side note, teen pregnancy has always been a hot topic on debates about sex education, but it was a year and half ago that the issue became even more intense. In June 2008, the nation was shocked to learn that at Gloucester High, 17 girls were expecting babies. It was then discovered that the girls made a pact to get pregnant by graduation.

What do you think about Palin’s campaign? Is she setting herself up for failure? What  do you think about sex education in America? What would you say to your teenager?

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  1. Abstinence education really does need to be comprehensive. It can be done in a comprehensive matter that will even appease the ‘religious right’, but I feel that too often, that the parents defer their communication and teaching responsibilities to a flawed system. While, I’m not saying that a parents’ judgement and teaching are not infallible, I AM saying that there’s a lot of blame here, and no one seems to be honest/humble enough to accept some responsibility for actions/inactions.

    • Gio

      definitely. however, teens don’t really learn about sex from their parents. they learn about it from their friends. and their friends learn about it from the media. i think what’s fascinating is that america is the country with the most teenage pregnancies (percentage wise), way more than countries which are sexually liberated, as in our european cousins.

  2. Being European, I indeed do regard this totally different. It is not such a big issue over here and even though I do not know of any statistics, I feel like teen pregnancies are not as common over here. While I lived in the US and visited a high school for just one year, I saw by far many more pregnant teens than I did in my whole school life (including university) in Germany. Why? Well parents DO talk safe sex over here. Quite early. Even if it is scary. Somehow it seems to work. Nevertheless, I do understand, because I experienced it myself, that there is a big cultural gap, which exists. So I am aware that it is not as easy as it may seem.

    • Mel

      Not sure if this is true so I thought I would get a Europeans take on it. I have heard that Germans will put their daughter on the pill as young as 14. Is that true?

      I wouldn’t want my daughter to be on the pill at that young of an age because all it would do is encourage her to have sex. I would hope she would respect her body and life enough not to give her self away at such a young age. She has homework to worry about anyhow. 🙂

      • This does happen, yes. Nothing I can deny. However, I do not believe it is a common case. From what I know parents only take their child to get the pill, when they “know” she is having sex and not to “encourage”. Again, I do not have any statistics, but from my limited view, I would say that teens in Germany learn a lot earlier about condoms than the pill… At least I did, even though it was quite some time ago. I hope that helped?!

    • Anne,

      You do indeed touch on a basic problem here. The problem is not with abstinence education, but with the parents and with society at large. You can’t tell kids to abstain in the classroom and not enforce it and encourage it at home and expect it to work. Especially not in a culture that seems to idolize sexuality and encourage/expect promiscuity. It’s never easy, and in such an atmosphere it is especially hard.

      We seem to have come to a place where parents no longer feel the need to teach their children moral or cultural values, but instead abdicate their responsibility to strangers within the educational system. This should not be! The parents must not only teach their children basic moral values, they must walk them out themselves. At the risk of sounding cliche’, “It’s not enough to talk the talk, you have to walk the walk as well.” Parents have to set clear and consistent boundaries, yet all too often we see the children setting the boundaries and making up the rules while the parents conform because it seems easier.

      Likewise, we as society bear much of the blame. It is our responsibility to set clear examples in public, to help the parents in their quest to raise their children well. Maybe, just maybe we need to get off our duffs and take a stand. Maybe that means changing how we dress, and what we watch. Maybe it’s time to tell some of those “stars” to put some clothes on, especially in prime time TV. Maybe it’s time some of us stop trying to be sexy and provocative, to try and look attractive instead of trashy.

      I am not just talking, my wife and I not only observed abstinence before marriage, we did not kiss before we were wed simply because we recognized if we did it would make it that much harder. We talked the talk, walked the walk and lived the life we desired our children to emulate. We drew a clear line between right and wrong and lived it. Perhaps if more of us did that, our children would have an easier time doing what they know is right.

  3. I don’t think Bristol Palin gives a damn about what other teens are doing. Her mother told her that pimping what she isn’t doing with her vagina is a great way to set herself up for a future job as a pundit or television personality.

    And Bristol said okay! These people are scam artists who use their life choices to stay in the public eye. It’s sad that the Palins are so comfortable with strangers being obsessed with their teen daughter’s genatalia — creepy, no?

  4. Scam artists indeed, since this crap really doesn’t matter.

  5. A_wandering_mind

    It’s all a publicity stunt imo 🙂

  6. Abstinence is also for da boyz wearin there pantz on d flo…. missies.

  7. laws632

    how about this? ANYONE who has sex outside of m/f marriage, goes to hell. Says God – but who cares what GOD says huh? Everyone is so brainwashed by theS&MSM that humans are reduced to “muslims did 911 using nan0-thermite and micro nukes” cows.

    >>> Hebrews 13:4 (New International Version)

    4: Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge all adulterers and all the sexually immoral.”

    dumbkopfs

    • Going by the Bible itself if we must, abstinence is not 100% safe either.

    • Me being a Christian who constantly reads the Bible, I can say that it is my opinion that you’re taking a scripture out of context; continue reading into verse 5 and you’ll see what I mean. Yes, the Bible does say that, but it also says that God forgives us for being sexual perverts, as well as any other act the Bible deems as “sinful.” Aka, read Luke 7:36-50 and John 8:1-11. Notice how I did NOT quote just one verse and take that verse out of context, but instead entire sections that as a whole present a single message. I think InvisibleMikey hit the nail on the head when he says “‘using scripture as a weapon,” as you’re using it to support a viewpoint instead of looking at what it really says.

      What does the Bible say about this? For one, the Bible does NOT prohibit sex, it prohibits the abuse of sex when it’s done outside of marriage. For seconds, it suggests through the entire book of Song of Solomon that sex is more than just a dick penetrating a vagina; it is an act of love that is seen between a married couple.

  8. conradvisionquest

    i think sex education should be mainly handled by the parents, and that’s why this country is having such a problem with it. parents aren’t talking to their kids about sex. to her credit, my mom told me about sex when i was 3 years old because that’s when i started asking questions. when you start talking about sex ed in schools, that’s where it gets sticky (no pun intended). because now you have to come up with a program that will satisfy everyone: different cultures, religions, political leanings, etc.
    i think bristol is doing what is expected of her right now. in and of itself sex is not a bad thing, and sending that message is harmful. it’s like telling a 2 year old to not touch the red button. of course, he will touch the red button.

    • @conradvisionquest

      I wholly agree with you. To me, the fact that we’re having to have these sex-ed and abstinence programs tells me that American parents are not talking to their kids about sex, or if they are, then it’s in my own belief the wrong message about sex. To me, “just use a condom” is not enough.

  9. fear worked pretty good in the 50’s, so I’m told.

  10. She already had a baby outside of marriage. How can she talks about abstinence, if she isn’t abstinent?

    • Gio

      Well, that’s the thing. She’s been in the public eye for almost two years, so she’s trying to use her “celebrity” in hopes that teenage girls would learn from her mistakes and what she had to go through. In another interview, she talked about going through a time of depression. When you have a baby at a young age, you are forced to grow up really fast.

      So now, she’s a “born-again virgin”–I believe that’s the term because she is abstaining and waiting for marriage.

  11. Hi, Gio! Congrats on making the WordPress “honor roll”. (featured best of) –

    I see laws632 is wielding one of the Bible’s “clobber passages”, quotes selected when one wishes to use scripture as a weapon, as well as hiding behind the “It’s not me saying this, it’s GOD, so you have no right to question its validity” canard…

    Well, that’s where the abstinence ed. folks are coming from too, the assumption that they have an answer that we have no right to examine.

    As Anne pointed out, this is not such a problem in Europe. In older, more experienced cultures than our adolescent nation, they’ve learned that biological drives will statistically overcome any religious or educational attempt to steer people in other directions. Unless you educate to prevent unwanted results (such as STDs and pregnancies), you WILL be dealing with unwanted results.

    Teenaged humans are designed to want to have sex. We have to teach them to control not the urge, but the outcomes of sex, and teach ALL of them, even the few who are able to successfully suppress their perfectly normal desires. Some parents are qualified to teach this, but plenty are not, so it must also be done at school. “Just say ignore reality” programs don’t work. What’s worse is they increase unwanted, uncontrolled consequences which taxpayers too often must pay for.

    (My blog’s about philosophic topics and the arts.)

    • Gio

      Thanks. How’s fishing? Are the fish biting this this time of year where you’re at? It’s hot and cold here in Los Angeles.

      Thanks for pointing out about other cultures. I think historically in other cultures (i.e., ancient times), people married young…like in their teens. Then again, life expectancy back then wasn’t as long as it is today with all the wars and diseases. Anyway, even if people wanted to put a Biblical basis, it was easier for a teen to abstain back then, because in a year or two, they’d get married. I think around WWII, teens often got married right after high school too. Those were different times back then. Nowadays, people get married in their late 20s, around 28, because both men and women want to pursue a higher education. So in a Biblical perspective in a present context, it would be more challenging to abstain.

      P.S. I love your post on Arthur. Huge fan of Arthurian legends.

      • Thank you too, Gio, for stopping by! Glad WordPress told me about your blog, and I’ll enjoy it in future. Oh, and the fish are fine since I only catch and release out in the ocean. (The picture isn’t me. I’m invisible.)

  12. @law632. Please make God out to be like the grim reaper. He DOES offer forgiveness and a way to start over if the person asks for it. I agree 100% with the verse you chose..

    However, it’s not appropriate to call people that God created ‘dummkopfs’. Yes we all are deserving of death, but that is NOT what God wants. He wants us to be closer to Him, and that requires us realizing things we’ve done wrong, and really trying to improve. We won’t be perfect-ever-but we sure can try! Just like going to college. I realize that I am NOT perfect, but boyyyyy do I try!! And please dont’ call them cows.

    Really you make a very weak point when you resort to name-calling and sarcasm in the context of something about the Bible.

    I don’t think fear should be used to persuade, either.

    Overall, I agree with Bristol. And is she setting herself up as Oprah implies? Sure she is! She’s setting herself up to live UP… to that goal.

    In our society there is too much of an emphasis put on issues that should be addressed with discretion. It’s no wonder teenagers are getting in on it, too. Every generation does things earlier, younger, why wouldn’t that apply to this issue, too?

    • springshine

      Thanks for your statements. I’m enjoying reading these posts because I’m pleasantly surprised at the number of people who are defending Bristol and the Christian morals we should strive to live by.

      The statistics of high school pregnancy listed above show that teenage moms need a model like Bristol, not just the teen girls who haven’t had sex,become pregnant, or are thinking about it.

      I can see that she would give hope to those teenage mom’s who feel like they can never be whole again or forgiven. That’s the awesome thing about Christ, he hurts with us and offers healing even when we go against his will.

      It’s nice to know there are other young people in this country that are still trying to live a life for Christ to the best they can…and defending it at that!

    • oops. I meant DON’T make God out to be a grim reaper. OOPS!

  13. hopefully, she does learn her lesson,
    being a custodian at an age of 19 is hard,
    no time for college? what an issue,
    great post.

  14. It amazes me that she’s being put out there as an advocate of what she was unable to do with someone who is a huge supporter of the concept of abstinence looking over her shoulder.

    Wanting it to work and wishing for it to work really really hard isn’t going to change the fact that teenagers need to be prepared and understand sexuality because it is coming, whether Sarah and company want to believe it or not.

  15. For those of us who advocate arming kids with EDUCATION about sex and its mechanics and outcomes, we can’t stress openly talking to your kids (regardless of religious beliefs or stance on teenage sex). They need to hear from the adult figures in their lives.

    http://goodwitchbadwitch.com/2009/04/16/kids-to-parents-why-ask-why/

  16. Dr H

    Interesting- if a person was bound and determined to stop smoking or stop drinking, would Oprah have argued just as strongly that a person who said “I am determined to not _____ any more” was setting themselves up for failure, or would she have applauded their resolve?

    • Gio

      Great point. I wonder the same thing.

    • springshine

      I totally agree! I thought the same thing when I read that. haha.

      This is TOTALLY off the wall, but just thought I’d make the comment for humor purposes…has anyone ever wondered why Oprah hasn’t started her own “church” yet. lol…I will NOT be surprised if that day comes.

    • steve

      sex is not comparable to chemical dependence.

      You are reflexively trying to equate sex with vice, weakness, and EVIL!!

      Try thinking of it as a bodily function that is optional (sort of) and social (as in needing another person to have much of a point). What other built-in functions do we have that are comparable? Speaking! Sex is no more vice than talking and Oprah was correct in questioning such a dumb resolution.

      How will all the little church kids react when Bristol falls off the wagon? Will her inevitable forgiveness only make sex more acceptable among church teens? <– is probably what Oprah was thinking.

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  18. well i follow u on twitter and now i see why u don’t follow me back since u like the brown haired grrls more.

    congrats on making wp front page! neat-o

    and this blog … it’s funny i had to look at the date like three times…i was like bristol palin is SO 2008 why is anyone even talking about her…OH because Oprah got sassy wit her i get it now…

    she’s pretty so she doesn’t actually HAVE to be smart

    • Gio

      Lol. I love all kinds of girls, except stick girls. And yes, I’m a sucker for brunettes, but mainly because a blonde broke my heart.

      I haven’t been checking up on who’s following me, because I’ve been reading a lot in order to write material for the blog and to keep in touch with current events. My eyes hurt from all the reading, but my mind is growing.

      And I agree with you, Bristol was “so 2008,” but Oprah is a powerful woman–when she’s on someone’s case, they better watch out. Although, I think Dr. H made a great point when he said: “Interesting- if a person was bound and determined to stop smoking or stop drinking, would Oprah have argued just as strongly that a person who said “I am determined to not _____ any more” was setting themselves up for failure, or would she have applauded their resolve?”

      Oprah is powerful because people listen to her every word. It’s quite scary actually.

      Oh, and I think fire stick performances are interesting to watch too. But I’m bias…I’m an islander.

  19. softballgirl78

    it’s for publicity. She is only trying to reform her image so that she gets herself and her mom back into a positive light.

  20. @La La

    whatever beauty doesn’t get the same respect as brains. Please.

  21. soulst0p

    I have little faith in Bristol. It might be even harder for her, now that she’s tasted the forbidden fruit, because she’ll know what she’s been missing.
    Anyway, she’s growing up to be her mom just yet.

  22. Jim Hagen

    It’s simple. Question 1: are there undesirable social results from teenage pregnancy and unwed mothers? Answer–yes, poverty, addiction, ill health and lack of education are often the result.

    Question 2: do we want to make our society the best that it can be?

    If yes, there have to be social penalties for promiscuity. Right now, there are only rewards in the form of aid to dependent children etc.

    • Jim,

      That is the attitude of a fascist.

      Besides which, your analysis is completely wrong.

      What is promiscuity? is a good first question. A second: who is the “our” to whom society belongs? Third: what does “best” mean in this context, and who decides what it means? Further, what does “undesirable” mean in this context, and again, who decides? A further: which demographic groups suffer most from poverty, addiction, ill health, lack of education, and teenage pregnacy?

      You see, this is a class issue… you are seeking to defend middle-class “society” from the issues afflicting the lower-classes. Chiefly by inflicting financial penalties? What you should start to think is:

      HOW CAN I PROTECT THE LOWER CLASSES FROM BOURGEOISIE?!

      • Wit,

        It’s not an upper class/middle class/lower class issue. Class has nothing to do with it, unless it is in the fact that statistics show the unwed mother is less likely to complete her education, thus ending up in lower paying jobs and more likely to end up at or close to poverty, needing financial and other help.

        In context, there is no ambiguity in undesirable. No person desires to be poor, no person desires to have to scratch to make ends meet, thus it is clearly an undesirable result.

        And yes, our welfare system does encourage abuse and even more children. This is not a secret, those who work in or with the system see it every day, the mom who has another baby just go get more money. The dad who is abusing the system, pretending to be disabled, yet working “under the table.” The family with all the latest and most expensive toys but not food on the table and no clothes for the kids. The system that was intended to give people a hand up, instead, perpetuates the problems. I don’t pretend to know what the answer is, but I do know we must find it.

      • Jim Hagen

        I’d have to agree with you if I thought that poverty, crime and ignorance were desirable goals for us to achieve. I imagine you are against education because it is elitist as well.

      • No, Jim, you imagine wrong. I’m for education. Anyone who thinks education, in itself, is elitist is making a very confused argument.

        Yes, it is elitist in that the rich go to better schools and Universities, whilst the poor get awful schools which give them neither the means nor the ambition to improve their situation. And of course, this is an enormous factor in teenage pregnancy, since girls from poorer backgrounds are not given the means or encouragement to aspire intellectually, or professionally, and instead are more suceptible to other pressures (e.g. from older men, or peers) and to accepting the meagre status accorded to them by their role as mother.

        However, this being the case, education is an engine for social change and mobility, and is one part of the cure to present elitism – not elitism itself.

        Hisfool, your argument is shaped by conservative prejudices and not by analysis or reality. And “undesirable” generates whole layers of ambiguity as soon as it is applied.

        Of course teenage pregnacy isn’t only shaped by class (it is not the case, as Bristol has proven, that middle-class girls don’t have vaginas). But the negative effects of teenage pregnancy are a class issue. I’m sure Bristol isn’t doing too badly, whereas girls who are already vulnerable, who find themselves to be pregnant, suffer a lot more.

        If we are to discuss social-engineering, it is the point of intervention has to be altered: don’t take away benefits from vulnerable mothers; give more opportunities to young girls before they become mothers.

        See – it IS a class issue.

        Best,
        Wit

      • This is a very interesting discussion with merit on both sides–Wit your most recent comment applies nicely to teenage males as well. It’s all about fixing the root cause problems and providing alternative choices.

  23. corey61

    I have not read any of the other comments, just the blog.

    Anyway, my 2 cents. I agree that teaching abstinence only is only doing 1/2 the job.

    While I do agree it is the best way to go, I also think folks are setting teens up for trouble, such as unwanted pregnancy, STD’s and worse HIV. HIV is not just a “gay disease”. I believe AIDS is the number 1 killer of Black women ages 18-24 or something like that. And there are other deadly STD’s as well. It’s like playing Russian Roullette with your kids lives if you only teach them 1/2 of what they need to know.

    And I also think if Parents are dead set against sex ed in school, then they need to take that responsibility and teach them at home. Letting young people learn on their own is not the way to go.

  24. Making love is a good thing!

    I would encourage young people to remember that.

    No-one has the right to decide how and when and with whom you make love; that’s partly why it’s so special.

    Preacher says: “don’t go having sex”. What does he know about making love, or about young people?

    And if you make love, afterward you are none the lesser for it.

    It’s a difficult game to master, and you should take care.

    Personally I’d advise you only make love with someone you trust and care for.

    But, promiscuousness is no crime.

    Whilst I wouldn’t say, make love at every opportunity, I would say:

    Take every chance for happiness that you get!

    Wit

  25. I’m with Oprah, the media is going to hound her future boyfriends down to get the inside information about her whenever she chooses to date…

  26. She promises to stay a virgin till marriage. Lol yeah right! She probably got hitched the night she made that vow.

  27. Frost-Barnes

    Solidly written blog – nice work. I have to say I actually hope that Bristol raises her baby well and that her family – and Levi’s – use their best judgment for Tripp’s sake.

    That said, I find it deeply hypocritical that Sarah and Bristol go on TV together pushing for abstinence with other women when neither exercised this option. This is less about helping others and so much more of a calculating move for Sarah’s image with both viewers and voters.

    It also opens them up for a fair amount of criticism, both humorous and crude…

    http://jdrourke.wordpress.com/2010/01/26/dear-sweet-bristol-palin/

  28. Great post, thank you for backing it up with facts.

  29. tone

    This philosophy is against human nature. We are talking about an age group that by nature is at the most sexually active group. So to ask them to abstain during a time when the hormones are raging and social pressures to be accepted and bonded is a very much naive. Hence Palin, and Johnston, the normal teen couple. Wished they had more access or acceptance of protected sex.

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  31. Abstinence for me is one practice that is quite practical, but rather it is ideal.

    Ideal because, sex education even in my country is one issue that is facilitated well. Frankly speaking, where did I exactly learned about sex? It’s not from my parents (who both didn’t have time to at least tell me what to expect about sex). I only learned about sex through my dad’s smut magazines. Then, I was exposed to sexy films on to rated R and triple X movies by sneaking … and through the Internet, too.

    Abstinence for me is one ‘hot’ issue that even the school I went to (a Catholic school) won’t dare exactly integrate the teaching of a more practical sex education.

    Palin’s campaign is an ideal effort, but she is setting up herself.

    The problem is, when sex education is taken in a class–there are *too* much sugar-coating in order not to be *offensive* to the sensibilities of the students (at least that’s what I’ve been told).

    Sex education in school should be taught in a manner that students are treated *maturely*. How? Maybe, male and female students are segregated, I don’t know. Also, teaching about sex without any anchor on values and at least about love … then I guess, sex education will fall short to attaining its main purpose.

  32. Wendy

    Gosh, how profoundly I regret the sexual revolution of my youth. At age 57 in 2010, I can soundly and unequivocally say that the sexual revolution was an absolute disaster, both for women and for men. We have come so far in only 40 years and this nasty sexual cocktail of STD’s, including AIDS, children having sex (and children…), the obsession with sex 24/7, the pressuring of little girls to be “sexy”, the pervasive nature of pornography…I could go on and on. It is like we have bought this bill of goods that says “we have nothing else to do in life except have sex, there is nothing more fun or harmless.” Nothing could be further from the truth and I am in sorrow about my own part in this. After getting on the Pill in summer 1971 right after h.s. graduation, I dived in to sex and let me tell you, promiscuity is not fun. Multiple partners brings multiple problems, including unpleasant and uncomfortable std’s, unplanned pregnancies ( I sorrowfully had 2 abortions right after Roe passed in 1973), terrible and painful sex, emotional CHAOS. When you just jump into the sack with anyone you feel a flutter of attraction to, there is no consideration of the repercussions of opening your most private parts to a total stranger. They do not love you, they do not respect your body or your soul, they use and abuse, and you may be doing the same to them.
    No, I agree, that abstinence is not easy, but as with any addictive behavior, you can help to plan your life so you avoid being tempted. Do not do obvious things, like going to a late-night party with booze or drugs, riding in a car alone with a member of the opposite sex, allowing pressure from peer groups to shape your behavior. It is YOUR precious body, YOUR precious soul, and to save it for that one special person is a wonderful thing. God is the necessary element in all this, as Jesus Christ is your best Friend and He will lead you to finding the right husband for women and wife for men. There is also FAR more to life than sex, despite this realm of marketing. We have been sold a bill of goods! Just say NO and hold your respect and demand better of yourself and others. It pays in the long run. (Old, but painfully wiser fogey!)

  33. plsmitha

    If Bristol Palin has resolved to remain celibate, that’s a positive decision. She doesn’t have to let everyone know, but if she does, perhaps that’s her way of being accountable.

    Oprah should encourage whoever decides to remain abstinent; as a young person, she had major problems with promiscuity, teenage pregnancy, etc. Sometimes people view everything through the lens of their experience, and mistakenly believe that because they could not accomplish something, or because the majority can’t do it, then no one can.

    It’s all in one’s state of mind, desire, etc.; as the Bible says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he,” and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” If the young lady has made a firm decision to be celibate, she can do it. Never underestimate the power of the human will.

  34. let teenagers learn from their own mistakes. and palin too.
    nice..

  35. Sigh. Thank God I don’t have teenagers. But yes it’s noone’s damn business when and with whom and at what time of day you are going to have sex! And if she thinks other women should have that goal too, I like to disagree with that statement entirely. Having said that, taking responsibility for your actions, esp. if you become pregnant, is a must for those teenage girls who are careless.

  36. lm2703

    I think it’s up to her if she wants to wait – I quite frankly feel sorry for her – she didn’t ask for all of this publicity. I don’t think anyone should critisize her for making a goal like that.

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